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21st-Jul-2008 02:05 pm
Torchwood - Speeding at night
The opportunity: I have a chance to do a group interview with Steven Moffat from Doctor Who and Julie Gardner and Naoko Mori from Torchwood, on the preview night of Comic Con.

The problems:   The interview time is 4-5 pm Wednesday, but my flight doesn't arrive till 7:30 pm.

It would cost $130 in change fees to change my ticket.  Plus, though the flights online are about the same price as my ticket, those are web fares, and I have to call a live ticket agent  to change the ticket, so I might have to pay additional ticket money on top of the change fees.

I do not have $130+.  I managed to max out my credit card with travel and general living expenses last month and it will take me several months to pay this all off (while being charged interest), my mortgage payment just jumped $40 a month and my car payment just went up $105 a month. I also haven't yet paid for my share of the Comic Con hotel, and of course there will be food expenses.

I have a friend visiting me who doesn't leave till 10 pm Tuesday, which is why I'd booked a flight at 1:30 pm on Wednesday: so I could sleep in and pack and get the house ready for my long absence in a leisurely fashion, instead of frantically pulling it all together while half-asleep.  If I change tickets, I'll have to leave my house a little after 5 am Wednesday to make the early morning flight.

I also have a boyfriend who is puppy-dog-eying me over the facts that I've been busy with my friend all week and now I'm going to be gone for 5 days, and who was going to take Wednesday morning off work to spend it with me, because he wants to spend time with me badly enough that he's willing to pack my clothes and water plants, as long as he's in my presence.

...So now I have to decide, is it worth the $$$ and the loss of time spent resting/with my boyfriend, in order to ask the actress and show-runners 3 or 4 questions each about their shows?  Because yeah, I realize that there aren't very many people who are going to get to do this, and I may not have a similar chance again...but I think that the expense and value of what I'll give up is greater than the value of getting to briefly meet these people.

Comments 
21st-Jul-2008 07:52 pm (UTC)
I saw your entry via Google and I just gotta say - it's a hard decision, but the interview, even if three or four questions, may be a once in a life opportunity. I'm a journalism major and I'd take the interview, sorely because you never know if and when it could happen again. I know it means giving up time with your boyfriend and really, that's the down side, so I can't help you there, sadly. But if it's something you really want to do, you should talk to your boyfriend about it. He sounds really considerate. If it's not that important, then there you go. If given the opportunity (and I've had opportunities like it, but never Torchwood related), I'd take it. Okay, I know this is weird cuz you don't know me... but oh well! I'll be at Comic-Con anyway. Either way, have fun!

Edited at 2008-07-21 07:53 pm (UTC)
21st-Jul-2008 09:50 pm (UTC)
Hey, what is online life for, if not to talk to people you don't know at all? ;0)

The irritating thing about making the decision is that every time I think I've decided one way or another, I immediately think, "Yeah, but..." and start to sway myself back the other way. So in looking at it from a depressing angle: I suppose I'm so evenly balanced between the two that no matter what I do, I'll be somewhat unhappy." *rolls eyes at self*
21st-Jul-2008 09:58 pm (UTC)
I know how you feel though. I'm in the same position myself, though the stakes possibly aren't so high. Still, I'm not going to a Neil Patrick Harris panel to go to a Supernatural panel. I've never watched Supernatural, but I'm going with a friend, probably cuz it'll be a hell of a lot more fun with her than NPH all by myself. So sometimes you have to make sacrifices for the ones you love and it ends out being worth it! :)

Anyway, have fun at the Con!
21st-Jul-2008 07:53 pm (UTC)
I personally wouldn't do it for all the reasons you mentioned. You're right, you might not have the chance again but if you don't I don't think it's a huge loss. I can see why you would want to but in my opinion, I wouldn't go for it.
You're bf sounds absolutely adorable and it sounds like you need some rest as well, you don't want to burn out.
21st-Jul-2008 08:05 pm (UTC)
I don't think I'd go. The extra expense, plus the stressfulness of less time to prepare and relax with your boyfriend, doesn't sound worth it. It's kind of a bummer, but probably for the best.
21st-Jul-2008 10:07 pm (UTC)
I keep talking myself into it, and then back out of it again. It would be different if it were a one-on-one interview. But it's a roundtable and I have no idea how many other people will be there - it could be that there are only three of us and it's quite intimate, it could be a dozen and I only get a chance to ask a single question. And then I'll think, "Well you're already spending all this money, what's another $130?" but then I think "That $130 will sit on your credit card and cost you even more money every single day for the next 12 weeks".

To put it more succinctly: I'm going to feel a loss, no matter what I choose. My real problem is in deciding which loss will bother me more.
21st-Jul-2008 09:51 pm (UTC)
I definitely don't want to burn out! That's part of my thinking: I'm already going to spend 4 days running on very little sleep, I'm not sure I want to spend 5 days that way. Otherwise, by the time Saturday comes, I'm quite literally not going to be able to function.

But then of course, as soon as I tell myself that, I start thinking of reasons why I should go...
21st-Jul-2008 08:29 pm (UTC)
I wasn't going to respond, but then I had to laugh because I can pass along the advice to you that my hubby always answers me with:

"You can always make more money."

He drives me nuts with that, but he kind of means it along the lines of "You can't take it with you" and "Never put off for tomorrow what you can do today."

There - some nice cliches I thought I'd pass along.

Love!
21st-Jul-2008 10:00 pm (UTC)
What's making it so hard (and irritating) is that there are intangible things about NOT going early that also mean a significant amount to me. If it was just about money, I'd probably shrug and go. But when you add in the loss of spending the morning with a sweet, good-looking guy, and the fact that I can only go about 3 days with little sleep before I completely fall apart and I'm going to be spending 4 straight days up all the time already, I'm less enthusiastic about going. Humph. And...a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush! (I have no idea what that means, but it's my all-time-favorite cliched saying.)

I've been thinking about this since Friday and still can't make a decision...which, I suppose, just means I'll bleed equally no matter what I decide to do.
21st-Jul-2008 09:18 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry to say my immediate reaction was a head explosion and then squeeing STEVEN MOFFAT STEVEN MOFFAT STEVEN MOFFAT - but reading the rest of the entry, I can see this is a tricky decision.

Only you can know how much you need that money and to spend time with boyfriend, so I wouldn't dream of telling you what to do. But when are you next going to get an opportunity like this?

(If you get opportunities like this all the time I may just have to become undyingly jealous of you.)
21st-Jul-2008 10:13 pm (UTC)
This is a one-time super-lucky chance. Which, again, is a reason why I'd like to go...but, dang it, maxing out a credit card is very very bad. I'm having trouble scraping up money to send the credit card people, in order to free up room on the card to charge my Comic Con expenses. And then you add in the intangible things I'll have to give up in order to go early...feh. Why can't decisions be nice and simple???
22nd-Jul-2008 11:20 am (UTC)
... because then they wouldn't be decisions? I guess?

It's entirely up to you. But I find from experience you regret the things you don't do more than the things you do. I spent a lot of money on that Heroes dinner - it's the only time I've ever lied to my mum, and she totally knows I'm lying, but isn't pushing the matter - but I've never regretted it. Even though I had to live quite a bit more carefully over the next few weeks.

I guess I'll jump on the cliche 'you can always make more money'. But just do whatever you feel you'll be able to live with in the future.
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